How do you know if your older loved ones need more support?

November is National Family Caregivers Month, a time to recognize the love and dedication that go into caring for others. With the holidays approaching, it’s also a wonderful time to connect with older friends and family to ensure they’re feeling well and supported.  

According to the latest census, that’s more important than ever since Maryland’s population of older adults is growing faster than most of the country. And many people, including your older loved ones, need additional assistance to manage their health. Here’s what you should know to keep them — and yourself — healthy, should you become a caregiver. 

Recognizing when it’s time to help

It can be difficult to tell if your loved one is struggling. Watch for these common signs:

• Changes at home: Is their space clean and safe? Are they eating well taking and taking medications as prescribed?  
• Memory problems: Occasional forgetfulness is normal, but regular confusion or poor decision-making may signal a larger issue.  
• Mental health concerns: Look for signs of depression, anxiety, or hopelessness—and seek help promptly if needed.  
• Other health concerns: Difficulty walking, falling, poor hygiene or significant weight changes can all indicate the need for more support. Isolation is another red flag.

Supporting their health and independence

If you take on a caregiver role, be specific about how you can help. Offer to drive them to appointments, cook together on weekends, or plan regular social activities.  

You can also strengthen their care by:

• Being their advocate: Help communicate their needs to their healthcare providers.  
• Coordinate appointments: Schedule and provide transportation to medical visits.
• Tracking health information: Keep a list of medications, health changes, and care plans.
• Manage medications: Use a pill organizer and create a schedule to prevent missed doses.

Taking care of yourself

Caring for an older loved one can be deeply rewarding, but also demanding. To avoid burnout, focus on the 4Ms of caregiving:  

• What Matters: Identify the goals that are most important to both of you. Share them with health care providers and set aside time for yourself.  
• Mobility: Encourage your loved one to stay active, and make time for your own exercise and well-being.  
• Mentation: Report cognitive changes to their provider, and protect your own mental health by connecting with friends or joining a support group.  
• Medication: Review prescriptions with their care team and ensure both of you eat well and stay hydrated.  

Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you need it. Making those requests — even for small tasks — can help you avoid caregiver burnout. Additionally, be sure you get enough sleep and practice stress reduction techniques like meditation or yoga. 

How we can help

Luminis Health is proud to be a national leader in age-friendly care. In fact, the Institute for Healthcare Improvement recognized two of our hospitals for excellence in older-adult services. Luminis Health Anne Arundel Medical Center in Annapolis was named one of five Age-Friendly Health System Pioneers nationwide. In addition, Luminis Health Doctor Community Medical Center in Lantham — and our primary care practices — earned the Age-Friendly Healthy System Level 2-Commited to Care Excellence designation.  

With this widespread expertise, we’re ready to walk with you every step of your caregiver journey.

Visit our caregivers page for additional caregiving resources.